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thanks!

3/9/2010 8:50:12 PM

Interesting... Thanks for the reading material.

Thanks!

3/8/2010 11:16:04 PM

Thank you anonymous! I really appreciate your in-sight. I think trusting in the Lord has a lot to do with divulging personal information. Listening to the spirit is a big part of recovery. I like the suggestion to quote yourself... I may use it. Thanks!

Hitting Bottom

3/8/2010 7:28:23 PM

There have been several times throughout my 20-year addiction when I've hit bottom, and typically those times are followed by extended periods of sobriety. But, sadly, over time I tend to forget the real pain of addiction and eventually relapse. For me, the pain is only real when I'm feeling it, and it isn't an effective tool to prevent future recurrence.

What is an effective tool, though, is change--real, lasting change. It begins slowly, as I crawl out of yet another "rock bottom" e...

J89,

3/7/2010 2:35:10 AM

I hope you're doing well, and I agree with the other comments that say you shouldn't be so hard on yourself.

One thing you said really caught my attention. You asked, "How do I remind myself of the feeling I have after failure. That never comes up when I'm being tempted. How do I bring it up so I remember not to do that?"

I've wondered the exact same thing and the best answer I've come up in my own situation is that I simply cannot think about the consequences of my action...

You're not alone.

3/6/2010 1:40:39 PM

Sometimes it just feels better to know that there are other people out there struggling with the same addiction. The solution is out there. Relatively few take advantage of it. It's found in the churches ARP and PASG programs, and also in Sexaholics Anonymous. The Twelve Steps were created and handed down through generations unitl they officially recieved the General Bishoprics stamp of approval as the "authorized" and recommended program of recovery for pornography addiction. I hope you ta...

My thoughts

3/6/2010 11:32:42 AM

This could sound weird, but...start by cutting yourself some slack. You admit that you have had this problem for years. You admit that your mind is full of the filth you have seen. You admit you are addicted.

So...do you think that, with YEARS of past history, you are really going to change everything about your thoughts and your habits in a single day? Of course not! More likely, it will take a long time to change.

But you WILL change if you keep trying, keep getting ...

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3/6/2010 10:04:16 AM

You answered a lot of your own questions. Why does this keep happening? Well it has happened since you were a child. How do I remind yourself? The keyword is "I". You are right you do need to remind yourself But, you are not alone. Have a fervent prayer that the lord will intervine and that he will remind you. You have had this problem a long time, it is going to take time and a lot of effort to get on a different track. The only thing that would hold you back is convincing yourself that ...

Dear Anon,

3/5/2010 8:59:41 AM

That cycle certainly sounds like what I've dealt with all my life. Do you have a reference for that so we can read up on it?

Also...

3/4/2010 11:17:03 PM

Males have a certain type of cycle that prepares them for sexual activity every two weeks. The cycle usually commences from the last sexual encounter and then two weeks later it will hit you again. I have no doubt this is how your body is working too. Satan might not have to tempt you. You just have to take control and of will me easier with the lord. Although it may just be bialogical Satan can still use that to help tempt you spiritually.

Thank you

3/4/2010 8:50:23 PM

It is still been really hard for me; but your support means so much to me. Thank you for all your comments

Good Medicine

3/4/2010 12:25:39 PM

IWILLNOT, it sounds to me like you learned something from this experience. Satan uses the same door over and over until we close it, then he looks for another. Recognizing the ways he seeks to influence us provides an opportunity to prevent those temptations in the future. I think this kind of learning is an important part of the recovery process.

I've noticed a similar tendency in myself to act out in anger or frustration or disappointment when something doesn't go the way I would li...

Controls

3/4/2010 11:59:21 AM

Whitewolf brought up a good point in his post -- the concept of controls. For me, this has been a critical part of my recovery. On the defensive side, I have setup Internet filters (only my wife has the password) on every computer I use. On the offensive side, I read scriptures and pray for strength regularly. Now, to be certain, these controls aren't perfect - no control will ever be good enough for me when I'm determined to act out. (Ultimately, my desire to turn to the Savior and be healed is...

It is not easy

3/3/2010 3:24:03 PM

Yeah, it is not easy to tell satan to get behind you especially when you are caught in his snares. But thankfully, D&C does tell us that we all can cast out Satan using the name of Jesus Christ. If you cast him out though, you need to make sure you don't invite him back. And as Christ told his desciples long ago, some spirits have to be cast out with much fasting and prayer. All of us are capable of fasting, it is open to everyone. All of us can pray. All of us can cast satan away, it is n...

God's Grace

3/3/2010 9:11:16 AM

To be clear...it is marvelous to experience God's grace, to be embraced in his love and to feel his Spirit speak to us again, even after we have sinned. He loves us and wants us to return to him and to become like him, no matter what we have done. For that purpose, he will send his love and his Spirit to urge us forward, even though WE DO NOT DESERVE IT (I'm not sure we will EVER deserve it). This divine help and understanding is a personal application of God's grace. You have recently felt ...

Great Article

3/2/2010 10:35:39 PM

I just finished reading the article, it was some great reading. We definitely are nothing without Him. Just to check in. I did fail again on Monday but after I failed I prayed and I felt really good afterwards. Just like the article said. We feel even better than before we sinned. I just have to keep relying on the Lord for support. Also, like Whitewolf said that the desires are there but faint, and on monday they started faint and grew louder and louder until I gave in.
But after I prayed ...

Keep climbing

3/2/2010 11:51:06 AM

See...I know others will disagree with me, but I am in the camp that believes that you aren't "starting over," but just continuing down the recovery path with a blip. I celebrate your "long time of being clean." Congrats. If it was longer than usual, then I say bravo, hurrah!

Sounds like you know you did wrong...we all know when we do wrong. No use beating yourself up over it. Find out what went right; thank and praise the Lord, and try again.

If it feels better to you...

Terriffic

3/2/2010 10:44:37 AM

Thanks for checking in. Keep up the good work! This will be a challenge to get past this part, so be prepared going in. Know that Satan is going to try and take you down to ruin your confidence. Don't let even a hair of his temptation linger with you. With the Lord's heloutou will be able to make it past this week, then the next and the next until you are at 20 weeks. Them 200. All things are possible with the Lord.

Made it

3/2/2010 10:28:53 AM

Survived, happily. 231 days and counting! It's amazing how with the morning often comes the light of reason, and the temptations of yesterday evening are a distant memory.

Great article

3/2/2010 9:46:46 AM

I wish more people in the Church would focus on and understand the indispensable role of Grace. God will save us, if we run to Him. We are nothing without Him.

Of course, WE must RUN to Him, if we are to be saved, but so many Mormons focus on our running to Him the right way, and they forget to focus on the fact that He does the saving.

Thanks, Whitewolf.

Here's a great article

3/2/2010 9:08:44 AM

I just read this and posted on my website yesterday - it's so good and I feel goes well with our post here:
http://whitewolfpurity.blogspot.com/2010/03/meridian-magazine-myth-of-month-nephias.html