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congrats ette

2/7/2012 8:46:27 PM

Really pleased for you.
God bless.

More thoughts

2/7/2012 4:54:48 PM

The 27 days are a great thing. When I started working with the first bishop that understood I only made it 17 days. I was really discouraged and he wanted to see me every week. I wasn’t looking forward to that next visit, but the conversation that occurred led me to the addiction recovery program. I think keeping your husband updated will help him understand how difficult this is for you. It may also become a springboard to a higher level of recovery. I would also recommend you start atten...

Hooah!

2/7/2012 4:20:57 PM

Enough said!

Follow the Spirit, wherever it leads

2/7/2012 4:14:26 PM

I hate divorce, but when my sister was getting one (Her screen name would have been MOMOF6) I realized that sometimes it was the best thing. The kids were getting old enough to realize why dad was always locked in his office. Just having that spirit in the home probably would have caused unknown damage. It hasn’t been a bed of roses, but she now has two daughters that have married in the temple and one of those and a son who have served missions. I think most of them are flying right. One s...

All is not lost

2/7/2012 3:47:02 PM

I agree with BeClean. The sobriety date may be new (I know that stinks), but not everything else is lost. The spiritual growth developed during those 27 days can quickly be regained. Turn back to the Lord and let Him give you as much of the Spirit as He wants to. I used to hold them at bay until I felt like I was worthy. Please don’t make that mistake. You can also look at how relapses are getting shallower, shorter and further apart and take hope in that. You can also look at what went w...

Agreed

2/7/2012 3:38:19 PM

I agree 100%. I am a long time SAG. I always seem to fail if it goes as far as to be hit by a big trigger. It is like fighting a grass fire with gusts of wind. It is so much easier to step on the match as soon as it falls and then throw a bucket of water on it. My bishop used to tell me to call him when I was struggling with temptation. The real problem was making sure I turned my day over to the Lord in prayer each morning and spent some time reading in the Book of Mormon. If I started m...

Ette,

2/7/2012 1:42:58 PM

This is great! Thank you for sharing your inspiring recovery! Keep up the good work...one day at a time!

Triggers

2/7/2012 12:47:03 PM

These are some good thoughts. I completely agree that focusing on triggers is not the way to have lasting recovery. To be completely honest, I don't spend much time thinking about triggers anymore. I focus on my dailies, working the steps, and feeling the Spirit.

I just had a conversation with somebody at group about the difference between the roots of our addiction and triggers. I compared triggers to the actual trigger of a gun. All a trigger does is provide the opportunity for a bu...

honesty and confession

2/7/2012 9:57:03 AM

Good job going so long! Personally, I don't believe in this starting over stuff. If you went 27 days clean, and then you messed up for a few minutes, it doesn't mean that you're now back at ground zero. It means you have 27 wins, and 1 loss. 27-1 is a great record for any sports team. It's a great record for you, 2. You are not 0-1, and do you not have to start over. You keep going from right where you are.

Does this mean you still haven't told your spouse yet? Are you saying th...

It's true.

2/6/2012 8:44:19 PM

I feel ya. It sucks slipping up, particularly when you don't feel very much in control. Right now, I keep telling myself that it's a process over a lifetime, not over a weekend. Good for you for not masturbating~ feel proud that even if it's frustrating, at least you're progressing. I slipped up today too and I really look up to you! You're doing good, I promise.

It's a HUGE Step

2/6/2012 6:15:16 PM

Amen, and have another serving of recovery. For me this has been the biggest step, and I have to keep revisiting it, because I keep taking control back. You are on the right track.

God speed and good recovery,
John

Don't be scared.

2/6/2012 5:16:46 PM

First off, I'm only a few years older than you. This can stop now. You can get better. You've already taken the first step of admitting you're an addict before a lot of people have. This doesn't have to be your life.

I've been reading in The Miracle of Forgiveness like each of my bishops have encouraged me to do. I have a lot of literature that I read almost as much as my scriptures to strengthen me against temptation. I also recommend the SA white book. But in the Miracle of Forgiven...

Amen to "The Choice"

2/6/2012 1:02:43 PM

Anonymous hit it on the head. Give up your fight with temptation to the Savior. Give up your fears about talking to your wife and the bishop. Anything you are struggling with can be given to the Lord. You’ll find you spend less time fighting and more time at peace. If you like getting the snot beat out of you, stay in the ring with Satan, but I have learned from bitter experience that he is a lot better at it than we are. Send the Savior in and enjoy the show. Satan doesn’t hold a candle ...

My story and thoughts

2/6/2012 12:48:12 PM

In a nutshell: I started having problems around 6 and by the time I was 12 I was a full blown addict. I talked to my first bishop at 16. He didn’t really understand and afterwards I was on my own again. It was many years before I found one that did; most of them took my confession and moved on. I didn’t have the courage to tell them that I needed them to follow up with me on an ongoing basis. It was an up and down struggle for a couple of decades. When I was 39 I finally found a bishop th...

I agree

2/6/2012 12:47:13 PM

I agree with what has been said above. The really nice thing that I noticed is that this is an old post and the latest one from Anon16 was titled, "I'm doing good". This is a good chance to look back and see how things have changed over the last month. Day to day growth can be very discouraging, but if I look back over longer periods I feel hopeful.

fantastic job

2/6/2012 12:29:03 PM

Hello my friend,

Maybe it is the good time to celebrate what you have accomplished because you should celebrate, the great work you have done during the last 8 month, slip can happen, learn from it, your brain need some adjustment but you are on the right direction, do what ever you can do and the lord will be with you and do all the rest,

Remember it's a long way and we have an addiction it will take time until the end,
I will pray for you

your friend from...

The choice

2/5/2012 3:19:12 PM

There is a critical choice that comes around the time your realize that you are 'white knuckling' it. If you keep doing what you are doing (even if you've been working hard) then normally a relapse occurs. But there is another way. It'll require you to give more then you are currently doing though.

When that desire starts moving in it is like a warning bell that Satan is at the door. Ignoring him wont keep him out. It is like with addiction he learned the combination to our locks or ...

Thanks for your thoughts..

2/5/2012 1:39:59 PM

@IAMSTRONG I can see what you mean by you dont really know exactly when it started, in a way it starts with out curiosity but we are born with that. I feel scared, because in a way, I'm starting out, and a lot of these people are lifelong addicts and they started out just like me (I'm 17), so that scares me a lot.

@Anon16 I think we can agree that, parents really need to step up and go that awkward talk and be there fot their kids. Its one thing to shelter them from Secual topics, bu...

How are you?

2/5/2012 8:59:25 AM

Ashly,

I woke up today thinking about your situation. We love you and are praying for you no matter what situation you are in right now. We will keep praying for you.

You mentioned in your first blog, that you are living somewhere new and that you don't have any friends and feel very lonely. Is there an LDS Young Single Adult Ward or Branch in your area? I would highly encourage you to seek out this group. They have so many activities and get togethers through out the...

My story

2/5/2012 8:34:06 AM

For me, it all started when a couple of volunteers were discussing romance novels at a book sale, joking about the page it started getting bad. My family had a book business for several years, up until April of last year, actually.

Until the book business I was sheltered from things like that. I knew my parents say not to look at them, but my mom had before she joined the church, so it wasn't all bad, right?

So I started reading romance novels, because I liked the story. F...