New ways
By helpme
4/29/2010 12:16:11 AM
So the other day I was meeting with my therapist. I had slipped up the week before and was expressing the feelings of angry and so much guilt that I was feeling. We started talking about day 1 and the things I can change this time. I felt that those 3 months I had been clean had gone to complete waste (like I had blogged about) but then I started thinking about all the time put together that I had been clean and realized I dont have to start over. I am not back at day one- I have progressed so much over the course of fighting this addiction and I will NOT go back on day one. For me personally counting days hurts bad when I slip so terribly hard on me. So now I put a tally mark in the back of my journal. For everyday I am clean I put one; if I slip up I dont put one and the next day I can try even harder to put a tally mark.Because the days we slip up are so few compared to the ones we do good. We need, I need to be a lot more positive and congratulate myself for making a day, week, month, year or what ever it may be. I am so grateful for all the days the Lord helps me and that through him I can overcome this. I know that everyday I fight it I am closer to God. I know that this will take time and I am not perfect- but God doesn't expect me (us) to become perfect over night.


"I like your idea and your thoughts. I am praying for you, too, Helpme. Keep up the good work. God will bless you for your sincere efforts. You are his daughter. We all want to help our daughters, he wants to more than anyone."
posted at 08:29:45 on April 29, 2010 by BeClean
great post    
"helpme -- I was the same way with days, really getting depressed about starting over at day one - when in reality we really aren't starting over, but continuing on and our progress is even better than what it was before. I then, for me, started thinking about sports and the way they keep scores with the wins/losses - and started doing that -- so it would be like 31-0, then I might slip up and now that day would be 31-1 and the next day I am clean again, 32-1 -- so the wins (days clean) are always higher than the losses (days slipped) and it just motivates me more to keep the wins higher than the losses -- just another idea to throw out there and one that works for me.

Stay strong and remember. . . Power in Purity!"
posted at 09:04:59 on April 29, 2010 by whitewolf
"I like it, WhiteWolf. Pretty soon, you're having undefeated seasons."
posted at 10:12:24 on April 29, 2010 by BeClean
I loved that idea!    
"I know how it feels to be back at "day one", lost count of them. BUT thinking that you were with more victories than losses is a great way!"
posted at 13:13:25 on May 2, 2010 by ALMA-BR
"I have been thinking the last week about how much I hate counting days and restarting again too. So thank you sooooo much HELPME and WHITEWOLF. I know now a good way to count I mean because, if I am trying to set a record then yes I would start over. But if I am measuring my success and not just days since my last failure, I think I can have more confidence. I hope you can one day look back at your tally marks and say Whoaaa!!! I have really done it!!! I have been trying so hard to be clean and now I can see all the days I have been, not just since my last failure. Keep going, and thank you for inspiring me."
posted at 00:32:51 on May 4, 2010 by gettinthere
So Creative    
"I love your ideas. I have had to start over so many times. A lifetime of do-overs. I also had to learn to look at the positive steps I have made instead of the slip-ups. I love your idea Whitewolf. Whatever keeps you positve!"
posted at 17:47:26 on May 4, 2010 by bobhere2112

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