Who has overcome their addicition?
By helpme
4/7/2010 1:09:21 AM
I have been been clean for exactly three months and I just gave it all up. I gave in. I hate this cycle. Who has overcomed there addiction that can help me. This is going to come across as a drama queen but I really cannot stop. I am trying to get my recommand back to go to the templel. It means so much to me but I cannot stop this addiction. It has been ten years and I am slowing losing hope. I know that the Lord can heal me, I just have problems letting him. 3 months in the gutter. ugh


You are wrong    
"Helpme, 3 months are NOT in the gutter.

When was the last time you were 3 months clean?

Congratulations, hurrah, hurrah, hurrah! I am so pleased for you. It is very tough to go three months. Please do not focus on the fact that you just failed. Do not lose hope, and do not give up. If you can be clean for three months, you can be clean forever. YOU are in charge of this addiction; it is not in charge of you.

I know a woman who struggled with mb for several of her teen and college years, just as you do. One day, she just stopped, almost exactly like you did 3 months ago. Almost ten years have gone by, and she hasn't struggled since.

Based on your recent success, I am confident you WILL get over this, just as my friend did. You are a daughter of God, and you deserve to return to the temple. You will be there soon. Keep your eye on that goal. Fill your mind and your time with light and with goodness. Put God first in every way, in every part of your life.

I bet in the days before you slipped up again, you let your guard down and stopped putting God first in some way. What way was that? Did you stop being intense in your scripture study and prayer? Did you stop preparing for sacrament services every week? Did you stop visiting the temple grounds and focusing your mind on the temple? Recommit to do all of those things.

I am SO happy for you. I will keep praying for you. You will make it.

posted at 11:06:52 on April 7, 2010 by BeClean
Help all    
"I have found that God will help you through your mix-ups and lift you back up right after them if you quickly turn back to him and repent. If you went 3 months and then messed up, you can still b eon the lord's side just sincerely repent. When you repent the lord promises to wipe your sins clean and he also states he will remember them no more. So don't you think that if you sincerely repent and work super hard at making sure you stay clean again; don't you think when you are forgiven that it will feel as though you are sinless and you could still count those 3 months?
I think where we get into trouble and get deeper and deeper into sin is when we stop. and give up after failure. You truly only fail though when you give up."
posted at 12:51:43 on April 7, 2010 by gettinthere
over a year    
"I've been clean over a year, so there really is hope. I am still temped and can't put my guard down, like Moroni I have to fortify my weakest points and constantly be aware that they are my weak points. Things do get better, don't get discouraged."
posted at 11:27:26 on April 8, 2010 by Anonymous
It is hard, be patient.    
"I once went over a year being clean and then slipped and felt my world was coming to an end. It is hard when you feel that despite your efforts you are at the beginning again. Feelings of failure and shame become rampant.

The danger of discouragement comes when you take your behaviors personally. It is easy to believe you are a bad person for slipping, but it is simply not true. We are all good people who make mistakes. Making mistakes means we are imperfect and have a weakness. And we have weakness so that we know to be humble. I love what is said in Ether 12:27 when the Savior says HE will make the weak things become strong (not us). Do not destroy yourself or despair that you have a weakness. It means you are human, as frail and imperfect as all of us are, and you are striving to do what is right, and that never goes unrewarded. Remember that God still loves you, needs you, protects you, and is ready to be there especially when you slip. He has not lost His confidence in you, don't you do so. He will deliver you in His time. Be patient and believe that He will do so."
posted at 14:43:45 on April 8, 2010 by benjamin
Well said, Benjamin!    
"I couldn't have said it better myself. : )"
posted at 20:07:38 on April 8, 2010 by Anonymous
A stumble, not a fall    
"I agree with BECLEAN -- your three months were not wasted. Iwill tell you what someone on this board told me when I stumbled (I was a little over 100 days clean) - even with your stumble, you are still significantly higher on the mountain of progress than you were before the 3 months. That time has not been wasted.

Return to the Lord, ask His help, and you will be back on track in no time."
posted at 11:21:47 on April 12, 2010 by iwillnot
Never, Never, Never, Give Up!    
"Winston Church Hill once said the above quote, and I think it applies to all of us who struggle with addiction. It doesn't matter how long you have been clean, the most important thing is that when you fall you start over again and do even better the next time. Having support from all of us who have difficulties in life will make things easier. This is my first time on this site, but I am going to start writing more often and I would love to be a support to anyone who is willing to help support me. If it is at all possible, I would like to find someone who is willing to be a personal support friend through email. I have always been told that it is good to have someone to report to, and I think that if I had someone that I could email to every few day just to report that I am still going strong, it would really help! If anyone is willing to do that, let me know. Until then, I will keep coming here and do as you are all here for."
posted at 23:17:44 on April 22, 2010 by Anonymous

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