Can Repentance Come in stages?
By davethedude
6/7/2015 11:51:29 PM
Step 3 - Key Principle — Decide to turn your will and your life over to the care of God the Eternal Father and His Son, Jesus Christ.
I have been sober for a few months now. I am going to church but I am not in full fellowship because of moral issues that happened some time ago. I am still smoking and have other word of wisdom issues. Do you think it's possible to take step 3 and hang onto these addictions for a time? I'm not sure how I feel about it but my sponsor thinks I should keep everything the way it is for a while and not upset the apple cart. He thinks that smoking a while longer (while I go thru a romantic breakup) is OK rather than risk full relapse into a vodka bottle. Any thoughts?


He's your sponsor for a reason    
"Hi davethedude. Congratulations in taking steps to beat your addiction. My suggestion is that you listen to your sponsor. It takes time for chemicals to get out of our systems, even when we are taking prescription meds as prescribed many of them have to be "weaned" off, tapered down until we can get them out of our systems. Celebrate the victory of being sober. Celebrate smoking one less cigarette, or any other "one less" in your life. Allow yourself to incrementally step down from this mountain and not try to take it in one leap. You can still interrupt the cycle of the behavior (why you smoke, drink, etc) while allowing time for the chemical to work its way out of your system. Identify what your intent is with the smoking. Your sponsor has been there, which is why sponsors are so vital! They know how because they've done it. Also keep your bishop up-to-date on your progress. He will be another great source of support. He isn't there to berate you for the bad, he is there to encourage you for the good. He wants you to succeed!
That's my two cents. Many prayers are with you. 2 Kings6:16 "Fear not: for they that be with us are more than they that be with them.""
posted at 20:05:24 on June 8, 2015 by 1stepatatime
"How do you feel about it? Do you feel like it's too much at one time or can you take the bull by its horns? Maybe I'm totally wrong here and I don't want to offer bad advice, but I think it's possible to quit it all. I believe in Heavenly Father and his promises. If he wants us to be clean and sober he will and can help us in these things. I mean addiction is though but it's not impossible things only have power over us if we give it power. If I have managed impossible tasks so can you with gods help. Pray and seek guidance and go off of the lords answer! He will never lead you astray and can see your potential. Keep up the awesome work!"
posted at 00:12:20 on June 9, 2015 by Anonymous
I agree with your sponsor    
"I think repentance can only come incrementally. Cause honestly most of us are pretty unaware of just how big of pieces of shit we really are and, in my opinion, God being a wise fellow "shows unto us our weakness" not all at once but incrementally. So how can we repent but in the same order? Some people might take on more at a time than others but I think anyone who might believe they're not still in the repentance process one step at a time, here a little there a little, is fooling themselves."
posted at 02:16:02 on June 9, 2015 by they_speak
keep moving forward :)    
"I'm inclined to agree with the other anonymous above, but I would add something more; whatever you decide to do, stick with it - don't go in with the attitude 'I'll probably slip a time or two before I make it, but that's okay.' EXPECT success.
At the same time, IF you do slip, acknowledge it and the need to do better while still recognising the progress you have made. Set things right, whatever that requires, and keep moving forward. Satan uses slips to tear us down. The Lord recognises when we fall short, & lifts us back onto the path when we reach for Him, knowing that we are making progress with every step forward."
posted at 17:08:57 on June 9, 2015 by Anonymous
Thanks and an Update    
"Thank you all for your wise words and input. I have followed my Sponsor and good thing. I have had quite a roller coaster ride with my (Trying to get her to be) ex-girlfriend. I am amazed that I am still sober after going thru the last few days. If I had put down the cigs, who knows! I am attending lots of meetings, reading Scriptures, watching conference talks, and praying my guts out. I really agree now with "They Ask", it is so true that as I make little bits of progress, I find that I am shown that there are a whole list of rotten behaviors and tendencies that are waiting to be done away with. I'm a real piece of work, lol. But at least I know that without the Lord, I am less than the dust. I feel very hopeful about the future, Thanks Again everyone!"
posted at 15:44:37 on June 11, 2015 by davethedude

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"You lived with your Heavenly Father in a premortal life. You were there with Him. Your spirit knows what it is like to live in celestial realms. You can never be truly happy in an uncelestial environment. You know too much. That is one of the reasons that for you, wickedness never can be happiness. What a great thing it is to decide once and for all early in life what you will do and what you will not do with regards to honesty, modesty, chastity, the Word of Wisdom, and temple marriage. "

— Larry W. Gibbons

General Conference October 2006