By baby bug
6/7/2015 5:06:29 AM
I have a friend who masturbated one time and was disgusted by it and has never done or thought about doing it again and has no addiction issues with it and it has been a while since it has happened and has prayed and asked forgiveness and strength from the lord but is unsure if it is an issue that needs to be brought up with their bishop? can someone help me to help my friend?


My opinion    
"Baby Bug,
In my opinion. i would recommend the friend speak with the Bishop. He is the judge before God and can help your friend work through these issues. my experience in life over 20 + years of dealing with this specific issues is that it is good to reach out for help. For me I know it was embarrasing, shameful to talk to my parents about it, to my Bishop and my Stake President. All that being said I tried to get help and I believe that helped me, even though I have had 20+ years of activities that I regret I feel that had I not at least tried ot reach out for help it would have been much much more difficult to make my life changes.
since i am sharing my opinion I would also share the fact that there are several aspects to challenge for me. I used to believe that if i prayed the right prayer, prayed hard enough and fasted that the desire would go away, or that when I got married it would go away. What I have learned is that s@xual desire is good and is very very strong, that there are hormones chemicals involved that are so very very strong. Understand that these challenges were not just a spiritual aspect, but that there was a spiritual physical and emotional aspect to the reason for my seeking those poor choices I was then able to be a little easier on myself and begin to change my life.
Recently i have had several relapses with m@strurbation and I feel at the bottom of the world because I know I have not lived up to the kind of person that I want to be, that I am the cause of my unhappiness. For me it is then that much easier to beat myself up to say well you did it once, things are awful, and for a few minutes I was able to escape and feel better abotu myself why not do it again. so i then found myeslf pushing myself away from God all the more, when at the very moment I need him. As I said I then beat myself up becaseu I know I amnot living the kind of life I should and then I figure that God and Christ can't love me, don't love me because I am not having eh success that I need and want in my life.
As a story about myself about 17 years ago I graduated from college with no plan and thinking God would help me get to where I needed to be. Well long story I got afraid as the world collapsed in on me and instead of turning to God, I turned to P@rn and m@strubation. I am still trying to trust God and his promises. This time around, 17 years later I am separated from my wife, with three kids to support and not making enough money to support my family. This time around it is just as tempting to go back to that old lifestyle. honestly at times the only thing that keeps me going is the desire to get back with my wife and kids, but even then it is not enough to keep going. I don't mean to be negative or depressing. I am happy to hear that your friend has not had an issue with m@strubation, I hope that it has been overcome for your friend. The reason I shared my experience is to try and answer your question with my life experience. Obviously your friend's experience is different and has different challenges, one of the things i ahve learned is that hiding these feelings and emotions for me though lead to greater challenges in my life."
posted at 08:50:28 on June 7, 2015 by Anonymous
Listen to the Prophets    
"I think Brigham Young gives a great answer to this question:

"Do not tell about your nonsensical conduct that nobody knows of but yourselves. Tell to the public that which belongs to the public. If you have sinned against the people, confess to them. If you have sinned against a family or a neighborhood, go to them and confess. If you have sinned against your Ward, confess to your Ward. If you have sinned against one individual, take that person by yourselves and make your confession to him. And if you have sinned against your God, or against yourselves, confess to God, and keep the matter to yourselves, for I do not want to know anything about it."

Remarks by President Brigham Young, made in the Tabernacle, Great Salt Lake City, March 10, 1860.
Reported by G. D. Watt."
posted at 20:30:12 on June 8, 2015 by ETTE
Bishops are there to help    
"I would strongly advise your friend talk to the Bishop. For one, because if he/she is still worried about it, it's the only way for them to fully be at peace. I have been there; trying to justify just once, telling myself that I'd repented because I'd prayed and read x number of conference talks etc. And for awhile I'd feel okay. But I only found the true, lasting peace that comes from having a clear conscience when I went to my bishop and counselled with him.
Bishops have heard much worse than this; they are not there to condemn, they are there to facilitate repentance and help us draw closer to Christ through the Atonement."
posted at 22:00:09 on June 8, 2015 by Anonymous

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"Man has a dual nature; one, related to the earthly or animal life; the other, akin to the divine. Whether a man remains satisfied within what we designate the animal world, satisfied with what the animal world will give him, yielding without effort to the whim of his appetites and passions and slipping farther and farther into the realm of indulgence, or whether, through self-mastery, he rises toward intellectual, moral, and spiritual enjoyments depends upon the kind of choice he makes every day, nay, every hour of his life"

— David O. McKay