Needing some questions answered...
By seeker
4/21/2014 1:45:53 AM
I was reading through the first step and was wondering, how do I even know I am addicted? I thought that at first maybe I was trying to justify my actions and brush it off, but now I am seriously wondering. How do I know I am addicted? No only that but I haven't been to church in so long, what good is it going to be for me to tell a bishop? I was talking today to a peer and he told me if I told my bishop of the things I do I wouldn't be welcome at church anymore. I don't know what to say. I mean I really want to quit this circle and attend church again, but I am now terrified that I will be cast out. I also looked up some meetings in my area and am planning to attend, but do I need to talk to my bishop before I go? Will I not be allowed to attend without talking to my bishop first? I have so many questions and fears, I can literally feel my mind being split apart...


I would say that is a lie from Satan    
something I remember hearing my dad say as a bishop was that he LOVED to smell smoke at church ... that is he loved to have people who were smokers coming to church. Now don't get me wrong it is that he loved the fact the people were humble enough to come to church. I think Elder Uchdorf's talk from last conference about hyprocrites and the chruch is so very true. We so often build walls for ourselves or others can exclude us because of choices but WE ARE ALL IMPERFECT as Elder Uchdorf said we each sin just a little differently than the other. Satan wants to get you to believe in the the pride that you are too far to reach by teh Savior. I say that from experience. I am currently struggling with some things but I know that church is where I need to be.

As far as being an addict, can you go with out the thing you are talking about? I know for me I use to say the same thing I am not an addict I can put this donw any time. I was lying to myself and had bought satans line of garbage hook line and sinker.

There is a great song by Casting Crowns called stained glass masqurade a bout what you are talking about right now
I don't know what you experience is, maybe your Bishop is a jerk, I would doubt it, but maybe he is. Even if that is the case the Savior loves you and wants you to come back to him, in your time. as elder Maxwell said our hearts and will are the only thing that we can give the Savior that he doesnt' already have. I know when I dropped my load before the Savior via my bishop I was so very releaved in a very physcial way. I am still struggling with a lot of things, but by giving up my will to the Savior has begun a wonderful process for me.

posted at 17:41:22 on April 21, 2014 by sjanderson
Church is for sinners    
"Watch this awesome talk, Seeker:

You will be welcome in Church.

And I agree with SJAnderson. If you can stop your sin and never go back to it again, then you are not addicted. If you have tried to stop and you can't, then you are addicted.

Either way, you should probably talk to your Bishop if you suspect that you should talk to your Bishop.

Your Bishop represents the Savior, and he will love you. He will welcome you back. Be sure to tell him that you want to come back. He will help!"
posted at 21:33:28 on April 21, 2014 by beclean
There is hope    
"You were pretty vague about what is going so it is tough to give advice on what you should do. But if you are wondering if you are addicted you should stop right now and go to:
Request the electronic version of "Sitting in a Rowboat throwing Marbles at a Battleship"
Then read the book as fast as possible.

Next, you should know a couple things:
1. Most bishops don't understand recovery from sexual related addictions. While healing though the atonement is essential, the Bishop may not completely understand what to do. But there is one thing he should be doing, show you that you are loved. And that no matter what you have done there is a way back.

2. You are very right that people in the church are immensely judgmental and returning to activity would be a huge leap. But oh what this would show The Lord. If you are willing to come back and do whatever it takes to be made whole, he is likely to help you. But expect there's going to be some judgmental members along the way. And when it comes to sexual addiction, including regular pornography use, believe me, you are not alone. Reading the book above will help you understand the "70%".

3. Going to ARP meetings will show you how not alone you are. There are a lot of people walking a very similar path. You do not need a bishops referral, or anything really, to attend. You will feel unexpectedly welcome. Depending on where you live there may be pornography specific recovery groups. These are the best IMO.

One day at a time! "
posted at 02:14:46 on April 24, 2014 by Anonymous
The Questions    
"SA has some questions that you can answer to see if you are a sex addict."
posted at 04:11:23 on April 27, 2014 by Anonymous

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"By emulating the Master, who endured temptations but “gave no heed unto them,” we, too, can live in a world filled with temptations “such as [are] common to man”. Of course Jesus noticed the tremendous temptations that came to him, but He did not process and reprocess them. Instead, He rejected them promptly. If we entertain temptations, soon they begin entertaining us! Turning these unwanted lodgers away at the doorstep of the mind is one way of giving “no heed.” Besides, these would-be lodgers are actually barbarians who, if admitted, can be evicted only with great trauma."

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987