Tips on Surviving My Danger Zone
By Fatherofone
2/1/2013 1:32:32 AM
A heads up: in this post I am going to talk about masturbation, and my personal struggles with it. I'm doing so to commiserate and get input from other people so that I can overcome my weaknesses. I place this warning because I know there are some spouses of people with sex addiction on this blog, and I wanted to be sensitive to them.

Having said that, so far, so good. I've found that keeping my mind busy is the key to being clean. At the risk of sharing TMI, I want to talk about my danger zone. The place where I am ALWAYS at risk of slipping up. And It's a place I can't avoid. The bathroom; more specifically, the shower.

It seems like the obvious place to MB, but it has gotten to the point more recently that I almost can't have a shower without it. It's just become a habit. Wash my hair, MB, body wash, get out of the shower. It's just that sort of ordeal and it drives me crazy. I'm usually an evening shower person, right before bed, so it's a time I'm usually tired too. I don't know what to do to overcome the temptation, other than to just have a quick quick shower. I mean, there have been times when not showering has been easier than not MBing in the shower, so I opt for going an extra day without showering. Lets just say its not a pleasant experience for anyone.

What suggestions do you guys have for overcoming the MB shower temptation. Surely this is a universal issue with sex addicts.


change the routine    
"We are creatures of habit. A lot of times in our life we have done something so often we go in auto pilot. Something that doesn't require conscious thought to perform. It sounds like you go on auto pilot. My sponsor suggested I change the routine up. For example what leg do you usually use to step into the shower. It's probably the same everytime. Consciously think about using the other leg. Which hand do you use to grab the shampoo, use the other one. Do you see where I'm going with this? You will be concentrating on changing the routine it shouldn't allow you to go into autopilot. You can even change other things up to.Using a different leg when starting to put on your pants. As addicts we have certain routines and ritualizations that get us into trouble. We must break them if we want recovery. Hope this helps"
posted at 12:12:55 on February 1, 2013 by down not out
What i do    
"Does your wife know you mb? If so leave the bathroom door open so she can come in at anytime. Maybe have her come in everyonce and awhile so she will surprise you. So you will always wonder if she may come in. You may think twice about mb cause she may walk in on you. Do that even if she doesnt know cause there is still a chance she could come in. Also shower earlier so people are up. It will keep your mind wondering and maybe off of mb. Works for me."
posted at 12:33:35 on February 1, 2013 by Joshbc
I am struggling as well    
"It has been over six months since I last masturbated. I read the Kama Sutra on February 5th. I did not masturbate but it stirred a lot of sexual feelings in me. I feel so guilty because their were sexual pictures in the book and I felt strong lustful feelings. It was very carnal and sensual. I feel so ashamed of myself. I am wondering how long it will be before I am worthy to enter the Holy Temple again. I feel disgusted with myself."
posted at 01:22:46 on February 9, 2013 by Anonymous
and here is where you let it go    
"Some who have posted recently would argue that you should just tell yourself that slips like this are OK and you can go ahead and feel OK about them and plan on indulging as often as necessary without feeling guilty. That is wrong.

But now that you HAVE slipped up, feeling severely overly guilty, ashamed, disgusted with yourself and discouraged is also wrong.

You are a child of God. You made a mistake. We all do. Considering your past temptations, it's no wonder this was a struggle. but all is not lost. God still loves you. Run to him now and tell him what you feel, and ask him to take these shameful feelings from you before you let them drive you to sin again. He is ready to help.

Six months!! Awesome job! That's 180 good days. You had 1 bad day. 180 wins, 1 loss. Any team would love the record you have. Now go win tomorrow, too, and put this all behind you."
posted at 01:43:01 on February 9, 2013 by beclean
"I know it sounds silly but I know that playing church music while in the bathroom helped someone else on else on this site."
posted at 14:00:24 on March 1, 2013 by maddy
shorter showers    
"The shower used to be a place of temptation for me, too, but I've found one of the best ways I can avoid temptation is to be physically away from places where I struggle. So once I started taking shorter showers - more like quick rinse offs - I found it easier to avoid that temptation. It's a sacrifice to give up a relaxing shower, but it's worth it when you realize you've gone without M in what used to be your most dangerous place."
posted at 20:13:29 on March 2, 2013 by johnroberts
Cold Showers...    
"Seriously, take the coldest most uncomfortable shower possible. It's hard to focus on anything else, hard get take your thoughts to dangerous places and you get out quickly."
posted at 22:27:53 on March 3, 2013 by Dangerous

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