What are the commonalities of those who succeed and those who fail
By down not out
1/14/2013 7:48:06 PM
I see someone just posted a one year follow up and has been clean for one year. I would love to have a year of recovery, but I have been wishing for that for two years and failed to neglect the day to day grind that has to take place. Lately I have been taking it one day at a time. I call my sponsor everyday. One day like it always happens I was feeling stress and there were some triggers. Like the past I felt relapse was inevitable that no matter what I did different the Titanic was still going to hit the ice berg. Usually I isolate without really being aware of what I am doing. I'm at work and I can easily isolate my thoughts of what I'm going to do when I get home. Instead I reached out which is the opposite of isolate. I texted a few members of my recovery group and the dark clouds of isolation were dispersed. I will use this in the future. No matter where I go I'm not alone.
I know all about failure, I'm pretty good at it, So I'm attempting to do the opposite of what I've been doing. Reaching out is the key to not relapsing. In the past I would always call my sponsor after I relapsed. Well it never contributed to my recovery just my guilt and shame. I enjoy reading people's recovery stories and what works and what doesn't. Keep coming back, it works if you work it!


great idea    
"great idea with reaching out to others - that's a huge step just like you said because it brings you out of isolation and secrecy, where addiction thrive.
in addition to reaching out to other people something that really helped me get longevity with recovery is reaching toward God. He doesn't really ever help me as much as I want, but always as much as I need. I found (and continue to find) that if I even start to feel like I'm moving in that direction, if I pray and tell God I'll do anything for Him to help me, He always gives me some feeling of something I can do to overcome the temptation. sometimes it's reaching out to others, sometimes it's leaving the house, sometimes it's reading a book or not getting on the computer for anything for the rest of the day and maybe the next. and sometimes it's just enough support and strength to help me get that bar up one more time."
posted at 15:19:16 on January 15, 2013 by recovery.gdo
"Yep, reaching out to others really does help. My sponsor says it helps when we are tempted, to just reach out and talk to someone about it because when we bring dark things to light, the light dispells the darkness and it doesn't have the power over us anymore. This seems to work for me. It can be hard, though, because I am a very shy person.:)"
posted at 16:08:41 on January 15, 2013 by G1rlie
Honesty and Persistance    
"I did 6 months of straight clean with those principles.Of course I relapsed but that is beside the point."
posted at 17:54:27 on January 15, 2013 by Liberation

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