Update a year later
1/14/2013 5:54:11 PM
I am not on hear near as much as I should be. About a year ago I started posting and this site was a strength to me when I was first starting my recovery process.
It was the advice I got on this site that convinced me I should tell my wife.

I was terrified to tell her, but I did. Since that day in March last year I have endured more pain than I thought I could handle. I had the worst days and months that I have ever experienced in my life.

But I also experienced love. I experienced forgiveness. I have experienced some of the most enriching, spiritual, heartfelt, emotionally loaded, wonderfully bonding moments that I have ever felt as well.

I have learned and continue to learn about my addiction. It is a fight. But I feel like with honesty and the team of people on my side it is manageable.
I have over 1 year of sobriety from porn and masturbation and am continually trying to make sure I move my boundaries a little further away from the cliff that I fell off of so many, many, many times.

My wife is an angel. We are not perfect, but we are perfect for each other, and I am so grateful she still believes that after the hell I put her through.

God cares, he can save you. I didn't believe that for a long time. But I do now.


"Great to hear another success story, particularly about your wife forgiving you. My wife is having a really difficult time overcoming the feelings of hurt and inadequacy and also having a really hard time forgiving me or having faith in me, despite my almost year of sobriety. A year sounds like so long, and in some ways it is, but others it is just the beginning. I hope we can both keep on the road, not justify any steps toward that cliff, and recognize it the moment we even begin to walk toward it."
posted at 15:14:58 on January 15, 2013 by recovery.gdo
"Glad to hear you have one year of not giving in to sexual sin. It has been a little over six months for me since I last masturbated. I hope to go back to the temple soon."
posted at 00:22:20 on January 31, 2013 by Anonymous
So happy for you.    
"Well done. I am so excited for you. I am only one clean but it was a great day. Starting the steps tonight and ready to move forward. I will be on here alot i think so any help would be great. But i am so happy to hear that it is possible. Thank you"
posted at 12:48:51 on January 31, 2013 by Joshbc
One year!!    
"Dude that's great! Awesome work. Keep it up!"
posted at 01:37:20 on February 1, 2013 by Fatherofone

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"In recent years, as I have sung the hymns of the Atonement, it has been with an especially full heart—and also with full voice, when I can continue to sing—lines such as “How great thou art,” “I scarce can take it in,” “To rescue a soul so rebellious and proud as mine,” “I stand all amazed,” and “Oh, it is wonderful!”"

— Neal A. Maxwell

General Conference May 1987