By cls
11/16/2012 8:15:53 PM
Step 1 - Key Principle — Admit that you, of yourself, are powerless to overcome your addictions and that your life has become unmanageable.
Hi all,
I am so not excited to be on here or rather to need to be on here. I have never viewed myself as an addict of any kind and i have recently discovered that i am a lust addict. im not sure what to say other than, im here and im looking to free myself of it!


You are never alone    
"Know that we Can overcome our addictions. We, ourselves, are powerless. But we can become whole again with the help of God. I know from my own experience that we can overcome. I used to feel that it may be impossible to overcome since I tried many times and failed. But it is Not impossible. Don't give up."
posted at 21:40:53 on November 16, 2012 by Anonymous
"Im in a pit i cant seem to get out of. I have started the 12 step book, but my desire to do it comes and goes. Im anxious and afraid more often than not these days and i need help."
posted at 16:43:19 on November 18, 2012 by cls
Don't worry, the desire to quit will grow    
"There are some things we can do to minimize lust. I have learned these things from SA, from church, and from my own experience. Remember that it is not possible to serve both God and the adversary. So, if we do things to serve God, this minimizes the influence of the adversary. We can serve God by serving others, by showing gratitude, by keeping a gratitude journal, be genealogical indexing, by showing acts of love for our family members. These are some things I have tried that are working. Also, positive media helps--like listening to General Conference. I've got a long ways to go, but these things are working for me.

Also, have you been to SA yet? It's a really great program that has helped a lot of other people. It could work for you, also."
posted at 20:05:36 on November 18, 2012 by G1rlie
Church culture....    
"We all are familiar with the scripture in Matthew 5:48, "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father in Heaven". Many of us feel like if we have sinned, or we are not perfect that we are somehow unfit for the Kingdom, or even our Father's love. Nothing could be further from the truth!! Come to see yourself as Heavenly Father sees you...flaws and all. He LOVES US!
Get into a group and start working the steps...They saved my life!"
posted at 09:02:56 on November 19, 2012 by chefdalet
What's important...    
"Hey man,
What's important is that you are willing to do something about it. That initial admission that you are an addict is a sobering one... but you are for sure not alone. There are thousands of us, many of which are silently suffering. You are now not silently suffering. What we are all dealing with is a serious thing that needs to be dealt with no matter what. Reach out to those around you - a friend, family member, wife, bishop, whoever. Talk to people about it. You will be amazed at the support you will find as you reach out.
What helped me...
1) attend LDS 12-step recovery group in your area. saved my life...

In this group, I found more desire and ability to change. I went through the book on my own and it didn't do the trick. I needed to surrender my pride and actually go to meetings and talk to people. Until I was willing to do this, I kept getting worse and worse.

You aren't alone. Keep moving forward. If you want to chat or have a friend visit my blog at
Good luck!"
posted at 12:49:39 on November 19, 2012 by recovery.gdo
"Thanks yall! Ive been trying to join slaa chats but hasnt worked on my pc. Not sure I have the strength to attend a mtg locally. Ive delt with my sexual preoccupation alone for so long. I only came here now because it has become unmanageable with all the changes, stresses and moving we have done in the past few years. I cant trust myself to do it alone anymore.
Ps: im female
posted at 10:13:56 on November 20, 2012 by cls
I hope you are still in the fight    
"I can't imagine what it must be to be a female and have to confess to member of the opposite sex, except that I have a wife now. We haven't been married for that long. When we started dating I told her of my addiction. We eloped on a bender.
For 14 years I have been struggling to overcome this thing fighting a backlog of molestation, drug and alcohol abuse, depression, anxiety and so much more. And for 14 years I have only proved one thing. I cannot, nor will I ever overcome this thing on my own. Never in a million years. I can be as good as I want. I can pray, read and serve until the cows come home but until I dedicate myself to reaching out, to rigorous honesty, to a 12 step group, to professional counseling I will never overcome this thing.

This conclusion has taken me years to discover. I believe with all my heart that you will never overcome this thing in a vacuum.

Feel free to write me anytime. Good luck and God bless you and me."
posted at 21:05:47 on December 2, 2012 by SimonLeper

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"Nothing is beyond [Christ’s] redeeming reach or His encircling empathy. Therefore, we should not complain about our own life’s not being a rose garden when we remember who wore the crown of thorns! Having bled at every pore, how red His raiment must have been in Gethsemane, how crimson that cloak! No wonder, when Christ comes in power and glory, that He will come in reminding red attire, signifying not only the winepress of wrath, but also to bring to our remembrance how He suffered for each of us in Gethsemane and on Calvary!"

— Neal A. Maxwell

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