The Withdrawal Experience
By Girlie
7/17/2012 8:38:10 AM
Oh, man. This is the scariest part for me when it comes to addiction recovery. Right now, I'm in a permanent state of withdrawal and I will remain this way as long as I have even some contact with GM.

I realize I need to go through withdrawal in order to become a whole person. I need to stop my addictive sexual and emotional behavior. This means No contact, no emails, no phone calls, no "acting out" with GM. And I seriously think this means zero sex for me at all for awhile. No idea how to bring up that topic with my husband. It even means I need to entertain zero thoughts about GM for more than 2 seconds. If a thought of him enters my mind, I am free to acknowledge it and let it go and choose to think higher thoughts.

Complete cessation of my addictive behavior will be a shock on my system. I know from experience, my whole body will hurt. My heart will ache. I'll have many crying spells. I will feel suicidal and I'll wish I would just die or something. But this is temporary. These things will pass.

I may need some external constraints to help myself enter into this withdrawal experience successfully. To do this, I'm considering letting all concerned parties know what's going on, including my husband. Oh, man, is this going to suck if I do this.

But as long as I am in this situation with GM, I Will Have No Peace.

I must not use justifications I have previously used often to justify any contact with him once I enter this withdrawal phase.

I may need to take time off of work to successfully do this. Also, I'm going to need to stay active and not isolate myself like I have done in the past. I need to remember things I am grateful for.

This withdrawal phase is only temporary. It will come to an end eventually.

I've gone 24 hours without contact with GM.


consider marriage counseling    
"Hubby needs to get full disclosure.
Consider a 90day celibacy contract.. use the time to refocus on relationship with your partner wo sex. these are common Tools. Maybe you only do 60 days.

having professional help will facilitate the difficult conversation."
posted at 09:38:05 on July 17, 2012 by Anonymous
"Wow. That is awesome to know. Yeah, my body needs to forget him. And I am unable to enjoy being with my husband at the moment, anyway.

I think I'm gonna take this advice. :)"
posted at 11:26:30 on July 17, 2012 by Girlie
90 days with no sex? AK! o_0    
"This sounds rather painful. But I guess a lack of sex never killed anyone. And it would probably be worth it. Somehow, I bet if I was able to accomplish withdrawal from GM and abstain from sex for a period of time, maybe I could once again enjoy being physical with my husband."
posted at 11:44:04 on July 17, 2012 by Girlie

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