Finding a balance
By andie
1/23/2007 8:50:01 PM
As my husband is going through the 12 step program for his addiction. I decided that I would do it with him and focus on an addiction of my own. I am completely addicted to food. Any food really, I just like lots of good food, it could be pasta, or pizza, ice cream or chocolate. I like to eat.
There are many reasons I like to eat:
I like the taste of food.
I like the comfort of food.
I like the company of food.
Food seems like a natural thing to gather around socially.
Whatever the reason though, I've come to realize that I need help. I'm not terribly overweight, but I'm not where I'm the happiest. But also, I need to eat foods that nourish my body and do better to obey the word of know the parts that everyone forgets...about eating fruit in it's season, and eating meat sparingly or not at all.
The hardest thing about being addicted to food is that you can't just eliminate food from your vocabulary. Normally with an addiction the plan is just to stay as far away from the substance as possible. Obviously that is not possible with food.
So, what do I end up doing? I go back and forth between overeating and trying to be anorexic (I say trying because really what it means is that I get to feeling fat and out of control and so I don't eat much for a few days....but then my love of food wins). How do you create a balance? That is the big question in my mind. A thought I would like to continue to ponder. Any input from all y'all is welcome.


I LOVE food.....    
"Oh Andie, I am so with you on this! I love to eat! Worse, my husband loves to eat and he makes desserts all the time and wants to eat them late at night after the kids are asleep, and he isn't really worried about portion control lately, so he just piles it on... and since I LOVE to eat, I don't say anything and justify eating this huge mountain of icecream because my husband served it to me and I don't want to hurt his feelings... yeah. I have tried the anorexic thing too, but then I just eat more to make up for it. I even tried to become bulimic, but I can't make myself throw up - and not for lack of trying - I'm just not wired that way I guess - and I'm so grateful for that because of all the horrible health problems that can cause!!! ANYWAY, something my husband and I have started doing lately is writing up a weekly menu - laminated it on cardstock so it's a wipe off thing we do each week. I only plan dinner everyday, but just that little planning helps, because then I'm not wandering through the kitchen everyday trying to figure out what to fix for dinner - and not wandering through the kitchen eliminates a lot of grazing. Another thing we do is put the junk food in a very inconvinient place. I don't believe in denying junk food, but I do believe that if it's put up high on the top shelf in the pantry, or on top of the kitchen cabinet - somewhere you have to get a step stool to reach - and then keep the step stool on the other side of the house - if it's hard to reach, you have more time to think about what you're doing and usually you find something else to do instead. And something else I've done is changed one or two habits. I used to sit and eat and watch tv, or sit and eat and read.... that was HUGE stress relief for me. I tried to cut food out of the equation, but as that was a stress relief, I started to get crazy, so now I try healthy snacks like nuts, raisins, dried fruits, air-popped popcorn (get an air-popper at Walmart for $15 or less).... but I NEVER deny myself a junk snack if I really want one. I just make sure I limit it to ONE - that would be one a day, not one and then one later, and then one later... and I try to limit how much time I spend watching tv, and reading. Like the tv used to be on all day, and now I can actually go days without turning it on (thank goodness for a DVR!). What else... WATER. Drink a lot of water. For breakfast, pretty much everyday, I eat quaker oatmeal squares DRY, and drink a HUGE cup of ice water (we're talking hospital mug sized, 32 oz) with it. Eating it dry is a good trick, because then you're picking it up with your fingers which is a "snack" food thing to do, and cutting out the milk also encourages you to drink more water - and then if you need a snack later, drink milk with it. Learn about healthy fats verses the wicked bad fats that will eventually kill you. Work on portion sizes. Serve up your food in your kitchen, and leave the rest in your kitchen - don't bring the dishes of food to the table. I find that our natural laziness is quite helpful in controling eating habits. If we have to get up for seconds, it's easier not to have seconds. Try to get out once a day and go for a walk for 20-30 minutes. It doesn't have to be a huge sweaty "exercise" ordeal, just move your body. If the weather isn't good for walking outdoors, then go to a store, or the mall, or even a nearby church building if it's open. Just don't replace a food addiction with a shopping addiction - that can get EXPENSIVE!!! And I have said this a couple of times, but don't deny yourself junk. That's not to say eat junk all day long, but if there's something you really love, let yourself have it, but watch portion control. If you love Hershey's Kisses, have a couple. The serving size for those is like 9 kisses. I usually have three or four and I'm happy with that. Something I have recently discovered is 3 musketeers. I think I have one a day (Sam's sells them in HUGE boxes) - never more than one, just sometimes I actually don't have any at all. But I have gotten into the habit of eating one just after I get my kids to nap. It's such a big thing for me. My daily dose of chocolate and vegging for a half hour. Then I'm good for the rest of the day. And as with everything else, go about it prayerfully. And if you slip, and you binge one day, don't give up and don't try to starve yourself the next day. Just say, "I made a mistake. I'll try again." And work harder to fill the next day with healthier foods than you normally would. And if you weigh yourself daily (I do), give yourself a 5 lb window up or down - that water retention thing always throws the weight around!! Anyway, these are all just things I've tried - never consistantly - not all at the same time - just dabbling here and there - but since April, I've lost 50 pounds, so some combination of all these ideas works! Hope this helps!"
posted at 12:30:11 on January 24, 2007 by mcr285
Ive Hit a plateau    

I'm recovering from two addictions and one of them is eating way TOO much, it's so hard to deny it when food is pushed at you from so many different sources and ways!

That's awesome loosing 50 lbs! i was 294 in March and now i keep bouncing in between 270-280 and i've been exercising hard every day, and i thought i was cutting down enough but i can't get below 270, it's been a month now, i've even joined a gym, i just don't understand why I can't below that mark.

I feel like I'm going to have to starve myself but i know that's wrong, so i guess i'm kind of stuck and i'm not sure about what to do next. "
posted at 08:14:13 on October 31, 2007 by dcamrine
Eat more (often), not less    
"Hey DCamrine, one thing that you need to do is not starve yourself, but eat better food more often. Do a Google search for metabolism increasing diets and you'll see that the most important thing is not what you are eating, at least initially, but when you are eating. Our bodies have a survival mechanism where if no new nutrients are given to the body within 3 hours, the next food that's eaten will be converted to fat because the brain thinks the body might starve. So eat every 2 hours. Go ahead and eat when something's pushed in front of you. However, just practice eating less and eliminate the big 3 meals a day. Instead, split them up into 2 smaller meals. As for your exercise, great job on getting the gym membership. Now use it - THE RIGHT WAY! Do cardio for 20 - 25 minutes MAX. Alternate between a bike, treadmill (WALKING fast, NOT running), and elliptical machine - one each day for 25 minutes MAX. Keep your heart rate at about 60% of your max heart rate for best fat burning. You can find your max heart rate at the gym maybe, or online. Going longer that 25 minutes or higher that 60 - 65% of your max heart rate, pushes your body from fat-burning to muscle burning and you DON'T want that!!!! A pound of muscle burns 70 calories a day, even if you just sat on the couch all day. Fat won't do that. You want to maximize your muscle. So after you do your cardio, then hit the weights. And it's hard but try to vary the exercises, even just a little bit, every couple weeks. Your muscles have memory and they have most growth when they don't "remember" what they're doing. Finally, drink a TON of water. Our bodies store water when they're not getting enough and that adds a lot of weight. You need to purge all the water weight from your body, so for a couple of days, force yourself to drink as much you can. Then the body will flush the excess water it's been storing. You'll be running to that bathroom every hour for a couple of days but you'll lose a lot of weight. After that, you don't have to drink as much, but you still want to drink a lot of water.

So there's a few tips. Good luck with the continuing battle over your body!"
posted at 09:35:23 on October 31, 2007 by Anonymous
one more ?    
"Thankyou for that, it will be very helpful! another question: does diet coke have an impact on weight loss? it's supposed to have 0 colories and no sugar."
posted at 11:08:10 on October 31, 2007 by dcamrine
soft drinks    
"it's not the diet thats bad it's the carbonation thats not good for you I'm trying to get off of it completly last time i did i lost 30lbs in six weeks water is the key word also the sodium that is in some drinks it makes you want more and more of it ..."
posted at 11:31:23 on October 31, 2007 by newsoul
Food Addiction    
"Hi I am lds and a food addict and have found peace around my food through working a 12 step program called Food Addicts Annonymous.

There is a food plan that has taken away my cravings, which for this food addict is a miracle.

I can't white knuckle when it comes to candy and sugar. I just give in to my addiction. But with the help of my Heavenly Father, and a food plan that relieves me of the aweful cravings for my drug of choice, which is sugar, I can recover from this disease, one day at a time.

The food plan can be found on the web at There are phone meetings available, to hear others recovery from this aweful disease of food addiction.

I pray for the many members of our church who are like me, addicted to food. I have learned to cook many great recipes from my sisters in the church, my best recipes come from Relief Society. And for me, I got alot of self esteem from being such a great cook.... where do I get self esteem if I don't get it from making great recipes for Pot Lucks, and have others tell me how good it is and can they have "my" recipes?

With the support of other food addicts like me, and sharing my experience, strength and hope, we can recover from this disease one day at a time."
posted at 14:46:10 on November 9, 2007 by Anonymous

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