feelings of being judged
By belle18
4/26/2012 4:20:28 PM
i have been thinking about going to my bishop about my addiction to smoking weed. our bishoprick just got changed and im afraid of what my new bishop will think of me. i made an appointment to see him sunday after church, but im not quite sure of how i would te him, if im not fully committed to change . i want to change but i also love the feeing of being high and right now i dont see the benifits of changing. i have a very addictive personality and can get addicted very easy. i know i shoud stop but i just dont know where to start.


talk to him either way    
"Just talk to him, when I first met with my Bishop I wasn't ready to quit my problem either. But, having someone who knows can really help- and when you are to the point where you are ready, then you have a relationship with him."
posted at 17:49:28 on April 26, 2012 by anon16
Bishops are your friend...but they are also Judges    
"Friend and Judge are both in your Bishop's job description.

Your Bishop is on your team, and he wants what's best for you. Perhaps he can help you figure out what you haven't figured out yet: the "benefits of changing."

I imagine smoking weed is similar to the masturbation and pornography that so many on this site struggle with in that it's not terribly, horribly physically destructive, but it's greatly destructive to the Spirit, and it can easily and quickly lead to much worse problems that ARE physically problematic.

I recommend you go to your Bishop and say something like, "Let me start by saying it's hard for me to come to you, because I'm afraid you'll judge me. It's also hard for me to come to you, because I'm honestly not certain I want to change. But, I know I want to do what's right, and I suspect that coming to you is a step in the right direction. So, I'm giving it a try. Now that I've said how hard this is, let me tell you what I'm doing..."

I recommend you try that approach with God in sincere prayer before you try it with the Bishop. Listen for what God says to that, and listen to what your Bishop says. They may say the same thing, or they may say two things that work together for your good."
posted at 18:22:35 on April 26, 2012 by beclean
I hear this    
"I can definitely sympathize with your fear of being judged. However, consider the alternative: continuing in your addiction is only going to prolong your guilt and prevent you from beginning the road to recovery. Your bishop has been called of God, and is there to help you overcome your addiction and draw closer to the Savior.

Confessing to the bishop sucks bigtime, but once you let it out, it feels wonderful. Pray for strength, and He will support you. Don't be discouraged; you are trying to do the right thing. The Lord is waiting with outstretched arms to help you come back into the light. Keep it up!"
posted at 00:11:05 on April 27, 2012 by fatherofone

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"If, through our unrighteous choices, we have lost our footing on that path, we must remember the agency we were given, agency we may choose to exercise again. I speak especially to those overcome by the thick darkness of addiction. If you have fallen into destructive, addictive behaviors, you may feel that you are spiritually in a black hole. As with the real black holes in space, it may seem all but impossible for light to penetrate to where you are. How do you escape? I testify the only way is through the very agency you exercised so valiantly in your premortal life, the agency that the adversary cannot take away without your yielding it to him. "

— Robert D. Hales

General Conference, April 2006