Please pray for me!!!!!
3/29/2012 5:57:25 PM
I am meeting with my Bishop in an hour. I will be confessing to my wife tonight or tomorrow. I am so scared. Not to talk to my Bishop, but to tell my sweet wife.


right thing!    
"Think of it this way.
choice 1... hide it, remain in pain. suffer more . slide down more in addiction.
choice 2. repent. pain of becoming transparent. Wife relationship problems for years to come.

Choice 1 is WAY more pain. "
posted at 18:16:18 on March 29, 2012 by Hurtallover
"Prayers to all of you. You and your wife and children."
posted at 09:30:09 on March 30, 2012 by maddy
Clarify the choices    
"Whattodo, you have my prayers, too!! You are making the right choice!

Concerning Hurtallover's two choices, I think a little clarification could help. Choice 1 doesn't look so bad--it's what we already know, and it doesn't seem as bad as "wife relationship problems for years to come."

But Choice 1 is missing something: eventually "every knee shall bow and every tongue confess." Eventually Choice 1 also ends with "wife relationship problems for years to come."

Actually, Choice 1 ends with, "Lose your right to your wife and children. They WILL be given to another man."

Choice 2 ends with, "Obtain eternal life and exhalation with God, with a wife, and with children."

It was that realization that made me willing to have my wife walk out on me, if she needed to (she never has). I realized that when I continue in sin, I have already lost her. She will be given to someone else eventually. The problem is that "eventually" seems so far away--the consequences are too far removed from now to have any motivating impact on my life.

So, in order to provide me with some added motivation and to help me see that there are real consequences to my actions, I told my wife it was OK to move those consequences forward a few years. If she feels she needs to take the children and leave, she should tell me it will be an immediate consequence--not one that is so far away it doesn't matter now. Luckily for me, my wife has always appreciated complete honesty, and so she has never felt the need to leave. My honesty indicates to her that I am working on it.

Back to the two choices: aside from which choice causes more pain, there is no joy and happiness in choice 1. Joy and an eternal, lasting marriage to your sweetheart comes only through choice 2 and through applying the atonement of the Savior.

Your marriage is broken and your wife is lost. Only the Savior can fix things now. Cast your burden at His feet."
posted at 10:13:31 on March 30, 2012 by beclean

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