By Slavery
6/21/2011 4:27:43 AM

I just had a few questions:

1 - What is to be expected as I bring the issue of my addiction to my Bishop? Will I be excommunicated?

2 - Can there still be help if I am removed?

3 - Will we ever be free of this?

My addiction started long before I ever was a member of the church. When I started to get the talks with the missionaries and started to feel the holy ghost come to life within me the choice of Baptism was becoming more clear - but the nagging memory of my addiction stopped me from pursuing this goodness. After more talks and going to church and learning more and more about the gospel I became "Clean" and abstained from mb and pornography. I was baptized and felt like I was truly reborn and forgiven for my transgressions.

Then life started to happen as it always does. The Fiance', the Job, the friends, everything started to take its priority kicking my scripture study and daily prayer into the back row. Soon after I began to "Slip" by looking at racy art and pictures online. It was only a matter of time until relapse. 4 months clean and it happened - mb.

The wave of guilt and shame overcame me to the point that I started to become depressed. I have only been a member for 6 months and already I feel like I have destroyed and forsaken the greatest blessing that god had given me in this life by falling back into "Slips" and relapse. It is a living nightmare and I know that I am not alone in this battle but every time it feels like the "Slavery" to this plague will never end.

Will we be free?


"I do not know the answer to #1 though that depends on the serverity of the sin. But I do know that there is nothing to be afraid of. Just tell the truth and the truth will set you free.

I do know the answer to #2 and it is a resounding, complete and total, YES.

I do not know the answer to #3. That is up to you. But if you had asked, "Can I be free of this?" then I could give an even stronger YES, YES, YES than before.

The Savior saves. The Redeemer redeems. And he sets the captive free. Have hope because He is real and He can heal this for you.

I love your name by the way. Welcome to the site."
posted at 04:34:44 on June 21, 2011 by maddy
It is not a given that you will be exed    
"Many people here have taken their addictions to different levels.

Only the Lord and you right now know how far that is, but so does Satan.

Mind games are crazy but if you are humble and seek the Lords will for your consequences, he will extend mercy.

Yes you will be free but it all depends on how much you want it and how you back up that desire through action."
posted at 08:42:30 on June 21, 2011 by ruggaexpat
The biggest Lie Satan has ever told.    
"Rugga and Maddy are right!

If you truly want sobriety you seek after it and ALL those things you need or should I say have to do daily to insure you have a fighting chance of staying free, you will hunger and thirst after your freedom. There are many who have commented here on what to do to be free. Our apostles have given direction. Prayer, Disclosure, Counseling, Education, 12 step program, accountability person to call every day or check in with.

Remember this addiction does not define you unless you let it. It is an addiction and not just a bad habit. It is a subconscious need. A craving your brain needs. This craving can be broken, but you have to take the necessary action.

Try to remember that this is the biggest lie Satan has ever told. He wants your sexuality. Your most powerful possession. All Satan has to offer is counterfeit sex. The biggest the best show on earth! Come Right IN! So SAD! Don't go in, do as the scriptures say and run from lust.

You know that our Savior, that God who helped form our bodies has the greatest show on Earth and in Heaven. It is mind blowing! The sexuality He planned for you and me and all His children is literally out of this world. Why wouldn't it be. Does anything God created suck? No! But Satan's desire is to sell you and tell you lies that will keep you having self sex and telling you that you are a looser. Telling you it is to hard to give up. The reality have to desire to be free more than anything else. You have to give up what is familiar and easily satisfying for a moment. If you do not addiction will get worse. All addictions do. And if not overcome the addiction will end up destroying you.

Be a Real Man

Overcome pitfalls and the consequences of your choices. It will be hard, but with the help of your Savior, you can overcome. Have faith and confidence in Him. Choose to desire above all sobriety. Hunger and thirst after it. The Savior will not let you down. He will give you answers and show you the way and even hold your hand if you truly desire with all intensity of heart.

It all starts with Prayer, Prayer, Prayer..... He will not forsake you.

My prayers to you."
posted at 18:15:43 on June 21, 2011 by Hero
Work the Steps    
"As I write this I am listening to a song by Gordon Lightfoot in the background. It is Rainy Day People. We are all rainy day people here, we are all rainy day friends. You can feel safe and comfort by attending the LDS Family Services Addiction Recovery Program. It does NOT suggest that you go to your Bishop right away. However, many of our participants are sent to up by their Bishops. I am an Elder in the program and one of my facilitators will be speaking shortly to a whole congregation of Bishops. (you guessed it- I live in Utah) Some of our participants started coming through the help of a trusted friend. The first 5 steps will be very challenging. After that you can start thinking about seeing your Bishop. As an Elder, I never take names and never call their Bishops. I don't even know who their Bishops are nor would I care to know.

No anxiety here. You will develop a closeness to the Savior that will bring healing to your soul. No need to mention MB or explicit details of your addiction. We, I/you have been there. We know what you are going through because we have lived it. I also know that the Savior's Grace is sufficient to heal the most vial of sinners.

Prepare to become unshakeled there and be freed from you slavery."
posted at 22:56:18 on June 21, 2011 by 3R's
"Thank you all for the heartfelt words, they truly have inspired me to get back on the right path and take charge over this and to "Free" myself. I truly am inspired and thank you all from the bottom of my heart."
posted at 23:10:45 on June 21, 2011 by Slavery

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